She Remembered Who She Was and The Game Was Changed

Hey, guys hope you liked my last blog. So here's another offering from my side hoping that I get better at this blogging game in the days to come. Today I have decided to write about something that has been the most widely debated topic for years. So what exactly does the term "independent women" mean?

It is a Women who pays her own bills, buys her own things, and does not allow another person to affect her stability or self-confidence, which is what the urban dictionary says. What I believe is that if you want to be independent then you have to find your way around it and be able to do what you want with utmost passion. It is about finding that moment where you can say it to yourself that yes I can take care of myself. I can be on my own and I am not dependent on my parents or anybody for that matter. Isn’t it the best feeling ever when you start doing things on your own and there is no one spoon-feeding you? To be honest I love that feeling and I can do anything to be able to feel that way. It is a beautiful feeling. I still remember my first day at my hostel in Chennai when my parents had left me to stay there all by myself so that I can complete my 2 years of post-grads. I was feeling completely lost amidst a bunch of strangers whom I did not know at all and the worst part was I was supposed to stay with them for 2 years. This was my first time away from home, my parents and my friends and I was feeling strange. I was feeling scared all of a sudden.  Maybe I was just scared by the idea of having to stay all by myself in an unknown city for 2 years. That decision of mine to go and pursue a course in Human Resource Management and that too in thousands of kilometers away from home turned out to be the best decision ever. I learned stuff as basic as from washing my clothes, traveling alone on a local train with thousands of eyes on me (not sure for what reason, maybe it was my way of dressing up) to making my bed on my own, folding and ironing clothes, figuring out where the grocery stores, beauty parlors, Xerox shops, and cafes were through Google maps to meeting strangers and becoming a part of their lives and making a part of mine as well. That’s what staying all by yourself teaches you. It all depends on you as an individual. Just do what you want to, irrespective of what others think of you.

My idea of an Independent Woman is a bit funny or maybe weird. I had always seen my dad as my role model when it comes to being independent and to some extent my mom too but for different reasons. My dad is a successful engineer. He is from a very remote village in Andhra, which belongs to the southern part of India. I came to know of his struggle from the stories he told me. He is the only engineer in his family. He used to study in those small earthen lamps due to the absence of electricity luxury (which we have these days) in his village. His family was never able to support the cost of his education, as they were farmers. Even with all these hindrances on his way, he struggled and never gave up on the idea of becoming an engineer. His struggle, his success and the way he brought me up by giving me everything he did not have, inspires me to be more independent and to be able to give back something to him one day. Speaking of my mom, she is a housewife who got married at a very young age but the fact that she wants me to have my own identity out there gives me a reason to become independent and make her feel proud of her daughter one day. Mothers don't get recognition for their contribution in making us what we are today. They sacrifice everything so that we can fulfill our dreams.

I think every woman should have one dream of hers for which she just leaves everything aside and works towards making it happen in reality. It could be the smallest thing or the biggest thing. The only thing is that you should follow it with all the heart you have. Every one of us has our own version of being independent. For some it is financial stability, for some, it is being able to travel alone all by themselves, which definitely includes me and so on. Whatever is your definition of an 'Independent Woman' just work diligently towards making that dream a REALITY!!!